to study the concept of Perfect Warrior. As I understand it, perfect - is getting rid of the three "problem": the fear of death, self-importance (CHSV) and self-pity. Today I would like to stay exactly on CHSV because it is very difficult to overcome, maybe, it is firmly lodged in the subconscious. In general, what is it? We will understand by Valeri Chugreeva, which at its site describes the most typical manifestations self-importance:
1) "guru syndrome"
Teachings, idiotic desire to teach and instruct on the "right path".
Even that option - yes, I is I know better than you. "manifests itself in irony (a little ironic and condescending smile), you want to interrupt the interlocutor, when he says something is going on.
2) Disputes
Defending your point of view, of proof. Also, any internal dialogues with imaginary opponents, arguments, proof of their point of view. Modeling in the head of different conflict situations.
cause of the dispute - an attempt to protect themselves, protect their image, their point of view. Trying to protect - is uncertain in itself.
3) Excuses
and explanations as excuses. Justification by a desire to look better. Excuse - a form of protection. Apologetic man defends his "clear image", "good name", etc.
often justified - fear of offending people, feelings of guilt for their actions, the fear that you were wrong understood.
typical pattern excuses: "You're bad" - an excuse. "You're bad" - a person perceives for itself after:
1) their own words, actions;
2) foreign phrases and actions in relation to himself (a man saying something, as he perceives, interprets it as an accusation).
person begins to make excuses pocle only he himself accused, not before. No one ever loved and did not accuse a man insulted himself and blames himself. He chooses to be offended and blaming themselves. Can cause physical pain, but you can not offend or accuse man, if he himself does not choose.
4) "Pay attention to me"
Desire receive a portion of attention and recognition from others.
Tug of attention to itself, the desire to be in the center. Expressed in an attempt to say something "Weighty", "smart", "ridiculous." Off in front of people. See his new clothes, some thing flashing wit, tell us about events in his life (in order to attract attention - but you know, I've recently ... ").
Synonyms - "panache," "cheap show-off." More harmonious name - self-presentation, self-promotion. "Well, here I come, the best, most decent, like me." Especially characteristic is shown at the time of meeting people. According to someone who behaves like a stranger companies can easily identify - a CHSV.
nuance: there is a conscious self-promotion, which aims to resources (for example - the location of interest "required people ") - is a strategy, but there are" cheap show-off "- this is CHSV.
5) shyness
the symptoms is directly opposed to" pay attention to me. "arises from self-doubt. Very often associated with "pay attention to me, in some specific cases may occur one kind CHSV, others just the opposite. Well help to get rid of this manifestation CHSV different custom actions (go with a pacifier in the subway, the street, go to the boot, tied a rope etc.).
6) Irritation, anger, rage
irritation when I can not, as you want. When you interfere with someone: to talk (interrupted), do (distract) quickly go in front of you someone is lagging, and you can not overtake, etc.
irritation when the interviewee says something that does not coincide with your opinion on some issue.
7) vindictiveness
Most of the criticism, podkolok, prohibitions, failure is caused by a banal revenge. "Oh, you're so then I told you so" - "Kick back".
Typically, vindictiveness manifested in a while, not always obvious cause and effect. Something somewhere settles remains at the bottom, and then pops up and here's on, get ...". Someone caught me, I endured insult, waited, and then revenge.
Most of all mstyulek is on an unconscious level, not so: "Oh, plague, so you hurt me then, and I love you now ..." at the head it generally can not occur. Just "suddenly" appears some desire to "hit" man to strike a moral to put in place, to prove that he is wrong in something, or just pin up.
Very often, this desire hiding behind a completely noble aims: "to restore justice," "defend the rightness," "guide on the right path."
8) False modesty
Concern the inability of making compliments. "Oh no, what you ...". The desire to show himself even better by playing a modest person or just a template (as a child taught so to answer).
9) fawning, cringing
example, in relation with the authorities. Feeling small and insignificant compared to the large and powerful man. The reason for this display - fear. Fear of a penalty of losing their jobs, etc. Fear not get something, for example, do not get the location of "important person ".
10) Search for" shortcomings "and" mistakes "of others
Excessive attention to the shortcomings of others. Painful reaction to the stupidity and idiocy surrounding - "Here are idiots, morons, etc.
Wrathful sermons and condemnation. Within the meaning of these sermons are reduced to "You're doing it wrong, and I know how to correct." Then with the initial experience with CHSV usually added: "But who am I to judge others." Or this: "You are, of course, all the morons, but I do not care."
Instead In order to work on yourself is a waste of time and attention on someone else's stupidity.
"... no matter what anyone says or does ... You must itself to be perfect man ... ... We need all our time and all our energy to defeat the idiocy in itself. That is what matters. Else has no importance ... "
11) Reaction to" bad / good "
reaction to" bad "- anger, resentment, excuses.
" bad "can be perceived after the phrases have meaning: "Do not you know you can not do, you can not, you do not understand." "Total moron." Similarly, such words and phrases, as a rule, do not tell, this is usually masked message informing you of incompetence, lack of necessary skills, knowledge, ability to think. As a rule, the meaning of such phrases comes not so much to request someone to hurt or offend, but to a desire to show his superiority over others.
reaction to the "good" - fun, awareness of its importance, sense of gratitude to those who praise. Within the meaning of the phrase directly opposite to the above stated: "You know how, you know you can, you're smart, you're beautiful, you have are some positive qualities. "Again, this is not necessarily served in plain text, sometimes a very graceful compliment and not trivial, knowing that may require a lot of attention. And on a subconscious level, such compliments are working quite well and efficiently. First - is to increase its significance, and secondly - the emergence of a sense of gratitude to those who reported a compliment, and a desire to make a person something nice.
12) Heroism
Very funny manifestation CHSV. Recognized, as a rule, years later, "Herculean effort," "lonely silent battle" and similar idiocy.
image of a hero in his face - this sense of struggle with the outside world, with the conditions of his life, with people of their "stupidity", "misleading", etc. This image of martyr, a martyr in the struggle for light idea.
Fighting a warrior - a struggle with his idiocy. Calling a soldier - it's their own stupidity and idiocy, but they must be combated. Such a struggle is natural, nothing here is not prohibitive, and no heroism is not necessary. Need the will, intent, patience and daily hard work. Will should flow smoothly without jerks and tears. Everyday overcome its stupidity will develop the most favorable way. Heroism in the form of a "Herculean effort" and attempts to break a "bright tomorrow" - is a consequence of stupidity, idiocy and illiterate organized practices.
13) Doubt, anxiety, fear
manifested as anxiety, impatience. Some types of concerns: self-determination and social status, the presence or absence of any things that matter (Get it? Will I Do? ") appearance ("A well or do I look?"), the ratio of people to him ("Nobody loves me," I'm no use to anyone, "" Once he looked at me askance, "" interesting, I liked she, like him? "), etc.
milder concerns - expectations. Often seen as the expectation of approval, praise, agreement with your opinions.
options with the expectation of any future events, change ("That'll arrange for a new job and everything will be fine," "Got to learn, and will be completely new life ").
Another very characteristic manifestation CHSV:" waiting for assessment - wait for the response to their actions, words. waiting and searching for acceptance from others. It is easy to see this on the forum, after writing his post, there is the expectation of evaluation.
14), Regret, self-flagellation
I did not, I'm late, I did not. It seems I said I have done something wrong, and suddenly I offended anybody. And the masochistic feelings about their CHSV too.
very unfortunate characteristic evident in the case - "I have offended people." Then comes "I'm bad."
15) narcissism
Fantasies, dreams and memories of his beloved on the topic: the great teacher of all time ("Guru syndrome"), the hero, a great fighter and a winner, a genius, a genius, a variant - a "modest" genius:).
Option narcissism: "Looking through the eyes of another person" (I think he thinks, can you imagine the look in the eyes of another person). Typically, this opinion is full of respect, admiration, etc.
16) "Who is the cooler?"
manifested in the two most obvious forms: competition ("I'm the best," "I'm the first", "we made them") and distorted competition - "Who of us has been more difficult?" ("... But this is nonsense, here I am ... that's me then ...").
Well, thanks to Valery, I'll try to track this thing CHSV. :)
